Written by What motivates you? What motivates the ones you lead?
These questions are common. Especially, when we think about how to inspire others (in particular Gen-Z). Understanding a person’s drivers can be beneficial for increasing motivation in difficulty. For example, if an athlete values competition, or playing time, and they are being asked to switch to a position they do not like or a new role – bringing those values into the conversation can help increase the willingness to do what you are asking of them. Knowing motivators is a great way to handle situational challenges, for short term motivation.
But I’d like to ask you one more question – For you to be willing to listen to me, what would I need to demonstrate to you?
Perhaps I need to show you that I understand your situation? Or that I am willing to listen to your perspectives? Or perhaps demonstrate competency to help your situation?
“Listening to learn is the first step in building connection with those you lead“
– Russ Flaten, Ed.D., CMPC
We don’t typically talk about motivating athletes this way. We typically think about motivation via values and goals. Understanding a person’s motivators helps navigate specific situations. Cultivating long-term, consistent motivation comes from the relationship – If you feel that I am trying to understand your perspective, your enthusiasm to listen to what I am telling you is going to be higher. It is no different for your athletes.
So, as you think about cultivating long-term motivation, start through the lens of the relationship first. It’s not about being “buddy-buddy” because you are the leader, but building relationships where two-way conversations can happen, will keep the motivation higher long-term.
- Start by communicating expectations around communication between athletes and coaches.
- During meetings with players, focus on listening to learn, don’t worry about trying to relate
- Model this for the athletes so they can do the same for each other